Hairdressers are Like Boyfriends


Next to finding the love of her life, perhaps a woman’s most sought after relationship is one with a great hair stylist.

A good stylist you can talk to, who understands your hair, and can make it lay down, curl or poof just right makes your life so much better.

I’ve searched for years, but never found “the one.”

Well, I thought I found her. Once.

I saw her maybe a half a dozen times. Then we moved away. I was busy raising my family, and after a few 45 mile drives realized a long distance relationship just wouldn’t work.

I’ve been through dozens of stylists. Just going from one haircut to the next, looking for the right fit.

Sometimes it’s a breakdown in communication that keeps me from going back. Like I say, “just trim off half an inch.” And she lobs off two or three.

Sometimes it’s a lack of understanding. I’ll never forget the stylist who chastised me for letting my roots grow out too much. I tried to explain that I was busy with a newborn, and just recovered from a C-section. She had no empathy for me replying, “You really need to do it every six weeks, or it starts to look tacky.”

Sometimes it’s a lack of chemistry. One time a stylist much younger than myself told me all about the exciting club she was going to that night. Then she asked me what my plans were. “Staying home. You know I have small children, so we don’t go out a lot.” She looked at me like I was the lamest person ever, and we spent the rest of the time in awkward silence.

Then there are the times I go so long between haircuts I wonder if the stylist will be offended that I waited so long to call.

Or even worse. Have you ever cheated on your hair stylist?

I might see someone a couple times. Then on a whim, while I’m at the mall, I decide I need a trim. So I go to one of those walk-in places. Then when I want to make an appointment again with the other girl I wonder, “Will she know I saw someone else? Will she feel betrayed?”

It would be great if there were some sort of speed dating service, or matchmaking site to help find your perfect hair stylist.

What would be on the questionnaire?

  1. Have you ever given anyone a mullet?
  2. On a scale of 1 to 5 how important is it for a mom to have a haircut that can be styled in 10 minutes or less?
  3. How often do you try to up sell your customers a $72 bottle of hair serum?

I just met Tammie on Tuesday. She cut my hair, and waxed my eyebrows. I was happy with the results. We chatted a little, then spent the rest of the time in comfortable silence. She even gave me a little scalp massage when she washed my hair.

I think this one might be a keeper.

I committed to another appointment in six weeks. Right there on the spot.

Only time will tell if my years of serial saloning are behind me.

Photo by Yiping Lim used with permission under Creative Commons License.

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Colleen Stout

Colleen spends her days wiping butts and pulling up pants as a stay-at-home mom to four year old David and three month old Wade. She and her husband Dave, who’s still putting up with her after 11 years, make their home in West Michigan. After graduating from college, Colleen worked as a journalist and a communications specialist. One day she realized she’d rather be at home making dinner than sitting in a cubicle listening to her boss talk about his Camero. Colleen packed up her desk, went home and had a baby. After getting her fill of Oprah and The View, she decided she needed something else to do besides watching daytime television. So she started her blog Mommie Daze where she writes about the funny, the sweet and just plain crazy moments of motherhood.

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10 Responses to “Hairdressers are Like Boyfriends”

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    Deb — April 11, 2010 at 9:44 am

    Good luck with your new hairdresser! I’ve spent a lot of time searching for one and I’ve finally found her. She is quite a bit younger than me, but she completely understands that I’m busy and I need a hair style that is not high maintenance. Do you live anywhere near Cadillac, MI ??? If so, I’ll forward her info to you.

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    • Mommie Daze replied: — April 11th, 2010 @ 9:24 pm

      I live near Kalamazoo so Cadillac might be a bit of a hike, but thanks for the offer!

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    Meg — April 11, 2010 at 12:09 pm

    LOL. I always walk up to my stylist chair with my hair in a pony, looking shamed face while I apologize for not getting a hair cut for 6 months!
    I tip her extra if she doesn’t chastise me! ;)

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    • Mommie Daze replied: — April 11th, 2010 @ 9:55 pm

      Yes, that’s totally worth an extra tip!

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    Mom Spark — April 11, 2010 at 2:49 pm

    If your hairdresser makes you feel bad about yourself, then you have picked the wrong one! I have a lovely hairdresser, Lacy, who is awesome and knows exactly what I want. I just hope she never leaves or chooses a new profession.

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    • Mommie Daze replied: — April 11th, 2010 @ 9:58 pm

      Yeah, I seem to be good at picking the wrong ones.

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    Kim — April 11, 2010 at 6:05 pm

    This is so true. I used to be a hairstylist, and it goes both ways. I couldn’t wait to rid of a couple of my clients! But over, it’s definitely a relationship that involves trust and respect. Cute post.

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    • Mommie Daze replied: — April 11th, 2010 @ 10:00 pm

      Oh, I can imagine! I know customers can just as difficult sometimes.

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    Deborah — April 11, 2010 at 10:20 pm

    Friends of mine in Florida love their stylists so much, they fly her in from California every six weeks!

    I’ve been so happy with my Michigan stylist, now that I live in Australia, I’ll wait until my next trip to the States to have a new cut.

    Okay, I confess, it was getting heavy and unruly. I let my hubby lop it off. That’s not the same thing as going to someone new, is it?

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    Joan Goldner — April 12, 2010 at 7:25 am

    Same stylist for over 10 years! And then, I did cheat – 2x and both disasters. Sent me running back confessing my shame and stupidity. LOVE you Giselle (but can you please stop the chatter?

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