Interview With A Blogger: Bossy Femme

It’s Sunday again, and you know what that means! It’s time for our second Interview With A Blogger series post! Today we’re chatting with Iris of Bossy Femme.

Interview With A Blogger: Bossy Femme

Hello, Iris!

So, what prompted you to start blogging?

I started blogging because I wanted to talk about being femme as an intentional, creative, political, anti-capitalist, body positive, and queer identity. I wanted to have a fashion blog that went beyond advertorial content aimed at attracting sponsorship. I wanted to have a place to document conversations like the kind I have with a close friend, who writes à l’allure garçonnière, a blog I can’t praise enough for its political and historical research, critical perspective, and spot-on style.

To a large extent, I have stepped back from political blogging, because I don’t think that my viewpoint as a thin, middle class, able-bodied, university educated white woman is really one that needs to be foregrounded in femme communities. There are so many other voices that out there that need to be heard so much more.

At the same time, one of the ways that Bossy Femme has resonated with other readers is when I’m able to talk about mental health and self-care, especially in terms of the seasonal depression that I know many of us deal with in this Southeastern Ontario climate.

The one feature on Bossy Femme that has endured the longest is something called Good Things Sunday, a sort of online gratitude journal that I have kept on some format or another for almost a decade. Also, I like to post photos of my dog.

Interview With A Blogger: Bossy Femme

Tell us about your day job/educational pursuits?

I’m the manager of a small but lovely vintage store in my hometown. I really love my job! These days I am really interested in wearing vintage especially from an environmental perspective. Wearing a piece that’s built to last through the decades is such a different experience than what you get with most new clothes you can buy these days, which are constructed to fall apart after one wash or two. I also get such a kick out of gently nudging people out of their fashion comfort zones, encouraging them to try on something they secretly love but not feel like they are “allowed” to wear.

Interview With A Blogger: Bossy Femme

Through the years I’ve become more and more interested in the dollars-and-cents aspects of my job, too, and over the last year or so I’ve been taking accounting courses online so that I can help balance the books. I have a degree in English Literature and I never really thought I “could” be a math person. As I get older I get a lot of satisfaction in trying (and enjoying) new things that might once have seemed out of character for me – it’s so cool to surprise yourself in that way, you know?

Interview With A Blogger: Bossy Femme

Where’s the farthest from home you’ve ever travelled? Tell us about your experience.

I’ve never been a huge travel person, to be honest. Most of the time I spend away from home is to visit people I love. I’ve had wonderful experiences visiting my best friend in Quebec City. Now that I have a boyfriend who lives in Seattle, I want to spend as much time there as I possibly can. I’m headed back in October & going to my first ever NFL game (another thing that teenage-me would never have guessed – I kinda love sports.) Go Seahawks! Also, I am excited about the coffee. And the kissing.

It might just be that I am a late bloomer in the travel department. As I’ve got more into knitting, I really want to visit places that have strong fiber craft traditions. Scandinavia, Peru, the Shetland Islands (home of Shetland ponies in cardigans).

Interview With A Blogger: Bossy Femme

What skill do you hope to master by the end of 2013?

I always have knitting-related goals & this winter I have my eye on a beautiful jacket pattern that would involve lots and lots of cables and set-in sleeves, which are new for me. I’m hopeless with my sewing machine but I want to get serious about my sewing dreams.

Um, and I have always said I wanted to get sweet abs. Or at least get the motivation to work out enough to end up with sweet abs, eventually. I guess abs are not a skill, but maybe that exercise thing is.

Interview With A Blogger: Bossy Femme

What’s your current favourite song/band? And what are you reading?

How about *three* favourite musicians? Lately I’ve been lucky enough to see The Weather Station, EONS, and Jennifer Castle & I can’t stop thinking about each of those performances. Magical, masterful musicianship, all.

I’m reading Oryx & Crake because I want to get on the Margaret Atwood MaddAddam bandwagon as soon as I possibly can. I have also been reading Maranda Elizabeth’s zine compilation, Telegram, in bits and pieces before bed.

Share three blogs you adore!

Three… blogs? Can I have an extension? I have been sneaking favourite bloggers in throughout this interview and I have a big big list on my blog but here are even more:

Interview With A Blogger: Bossy Femme

Thanks so much to Iris of Bossy Femme for chatting with us today! You can keep up with Iris via her blog, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest!

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