We Don’t Celebrate Santa – Sue Me

Oldie, but goodie from 2008:

No, we don’t celebrate Santa.

Yes, we do celebrate Christmas.

Do we care if you celebrate Santa?  Nope.

Do you care if we choose not to?  Yes.

Of course, I am generalizing when I say “you”.  I’m sure many of “you” have no problem with our decision, and maybe even practice it yourself.  I just haven’t met you yet.  I am generalizing because MOST of the reactions I get from strangers, friends, and some family members are of shock and disappointment.  Most of the time I don’t even bring it up, and just smile and nod when the sweet stranger at the store asks my youngest, “Are you ready for Santa?”

You’re probably wondering why we don’t celebrate Santa, huh?First, let me say that we do not discriminate against those who choose to do Santa, The Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, Superman, etc., it’s just not our thing.

Why?

Remember, this is just our opinion, and you have the right to yours, as well.  We think investing, believing and hyping something to the point of calling it real, but is in fact not real at all, isn’t necessary for our children.  We think that a child’s imagination and wonder can still be stimulated without these beliefs.  That is all.  We don’t freak out if our kids see Santa movies or memorabilia-we just teach them that he’s a made-up character, just like Batman or Donald Duck. Our nine year old still gets just as excited as any other kid on Christmas day, even though he knows we bought the presents.  Presents are pretty darn cool all by themselves. I think Santa is so buried into America’s traditions and way of life, that we do not question why we do it and feel obligated to partake in the experience.

I wonder, why do we get the reaction from others that we do?  Why do so many take it so hard? Why is it a requirement to celebrate Santa and am I really harming my children by not doing so?

Maybe you can enlighten me.  Do you celebrate Santa and why?  OR do you choose not to celebrate Santa and other imaginary characters and why?

Show me some love folks.

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Amy Bellgardt

AMY BELLGARDT is a wife and mom of two boys, as well as founder and lead blogger at Mom Spark. Amy also manages Mom Spark Media, a social media marketing firm.

166 Responses to “We Don’t Celebrate Santa – Sue Me”

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    Tamara — December 23, 2011 at 11:02 pm

    I grew up not doing the whole Santa thing and in fact I grew up not celebrating Christmas at all. And I’m fine. I don’t feel like I missed out. I have been celebrating Christmas for quite some time now and once I got married and had kids my husband is really into the Santa thing. I would be happy to not do it but it makes him happy so we do it. I did tell him that if our kids ever flat out ask me if he’s real I would tell them the truth though.

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    • Sally G replied: — December 26th, 2011 @ 9:36 am

      @Tamara,
      My parents’ response was always to turn the question back around, “What do you think?” They never argued for fantasy that we did not believe, rather taught us to analyze, to consider whether the evidence proved or disproved Santa (or anything else), yet allowed me to NEVER have to “not believe” in Santa Claus, even while making it real for my 8-years-younger sister through “reindeer conferences” to discuss gifts (complete with pawing at the ground and lapping at the salt lick), “helping Santa” by decorating the Christmas tree after I discovered the neighbors (4 kids) doing that (my parents had originally set up the tree Christmas Eve after I had gone to bed; they were glad to make that a family project and get a bit more sleep).

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    MommyNamedApril — January 4, 2012 at 4:12 pm

    we have the same exact philosophy, santa is as real as mickey mouse. which is to say, not at all. fun, but fake.

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    Christina Gleason @ WELL, in THIS House — November 26, 2012 at 10:06 pm

    I don’t care if other people don’t do Santa with their kids. Just, knowing that so many of us do, I hope that those parents tell their kids not to ruin it for any other kids who do believe in Santa.

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    • Mom Spark replied: — November 26th, 2012 @ 10:28 pm

      My kids keep it to themselves. It is a personal decision that our family has made and need not be pushed onto others.

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    meg — January 18, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    I think (Christmas) is so buried into America’s traditions and way of life, that we do not question why we do it and feel obligated to partake in the experience.

    At least its one step in not lying to your kids but in reality, the whole holiday is just a money-making, old pagan tradition that no one even cares why were supposedly doing it, just sucked in like everyone else. Hence replace your sentence above with Christmas not just Santa. Presents are much better knowing someone just thought of you or didn’t have to. Not rushed to get stuff by a date because you have to and everyone else is doing it.

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    J. Medemans — August 12, 2014 at 5:03 pm

    Here is an idea, let’s steal Christmas from the Christians. There will be this jolly God like character (Santa) whose favor the kids will have to work and strive to earn. So from the earliest age they come to view life/God not as a state of grace, but as a works based system of rewards (presents) and punishments (coal) that they truly believe in. Then after a good 10 years of indoctrination, let’s crush that world view by revealing the whole thing to be a lie carried out by none other than the very people these kids rely on for guidance (parents). It will destroy their life view, their God view, and the family structure just in time for adolescence. Christmas will be christ-less through and through. Oh wait, that actually happened.

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